Why I Cook For My Husband Nearly Every Day

Why I Cook For My Husband Nearly Every Day | What Joy Is Mine

Growing up my mother always made sure my father had a home cooked meal at the end of his work day. I can’t remember too many evenings she didn’t have something prepared. My father always appreciated this effort of my mother. He knew he could count on something delish, warm and ready when he walked in the door.

In my own marriage, I have followed my mother’s example. Honestly, I truly love having a meal ready for my husband at the end of his work day. It makes me smile when he walks in and says, “You can smell that [whatever I’m cooking] before you walk in the house. Mmmm….what is it?” That encourages my heart and reminds me how important it is to him.

So, is it true that the way to man’s heart is through his stomach? I say there is more truth to that statement than not.

Having a meal prepared for our husbands at the end of the day demonstrates servant’s heart. We are called “through love to serve one another.” (Galatians 5:13) Serving our husbands in this way is a blessing to them. We make them feel important and worthy. “She does him good, and not harm, all the days of her life.” (Proverbs 31:12)

Another positive thing about having a meal ready for our husbands at the end of the day is we express thankfulness. We are telling them how much we appreciate that they work hard to provide for their family. It would seem a simple meal wouldn’t mean much but it does. We send the message that their work is not in vain and that we are grateful for their daily diligence. “In all toil there is profit.(Proverbs 14:23)

Lastly, this is an act of love! It is another wonderful way to tell our husbands we love them. “Above all, keep loving one another earnestly.” (1 Peter 4:8) Another word for earnestly is purposefully. To me, it is a great way to purposely spoil my husband and communicate I care about his well being. Plus, I know he feels loved knowing I would greet him with a home cooked meal after a long work day.

Here are three ideas to bring about this awesome way to love our husbands:

1. If you love to cook, then cook! Prepare favorite meals along with trying new meals here and there. Don’t forget to make note of the meals your husband enjoys the most.

2. If cooking is not your thing, then take time to learn or at least find recipes that don’t require much ingredients and are easy to whip up. There are so many easy peasy delicious recipes online and on Pinterest that can be done in 30 minutes or less. Keep it simple as you learn to cook better.

3. Plan a menu and stick with it as best you can. This is just a great idea period. I plan our menu weekly and shop accordingly so that each evening I know what will be prepared. This saves me the stress of trying to come up with something last minute.

Cooking for our husbands is a reflection of our heart for them. It isn’t about a gourmet meal but about having something prepared…even if its something as simple as sandwiches or something more elaborate like roast. (Check out my easy roast recipe.) So, what will you whip up for your husband this evening?

(PS. I say nearly in my post title because sometimes he treats me to dinner out. I am truly blessed.)

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Monday’s Musings #177 & The Indissoluble Relationship

The Indissoluble Relationship | What Joy Is Mine

When I married my Love, we married for life. We are going on 24 years and it was never a thought we would ever not be married. However, marriage is work. Good, hard and love-filled work. Every investment to love unconditionally and wholeheartedly, to forgive willingly, to protect and hold close intentionally, to serve cheerfully, and to cherish and adore each and every day is worth it. It reiterates Song of Solomon 2:16, ” My beloved is mine, and I am his.

Concerning marriage, this verse should motivate each of us to love our spouse intentionally and with JOY. They are God’s gift to us. This verse reflects the bride’s view of her relationship with her bridegroom. She belongs to him and he belongs to her. Not just today but for all the days to follow. They are one and adhere to a mutual bond of affection and love for one another. There is certainty that their relationship will be lastingindissoluble! They will only have eyes for each other.

It’s not about finding the perfect person but the person who compliments you. It’s seeking the one who is your counterpart, equally yoked, and completes you. Their heart is for you alone, desiring to spend their life with you and none other. “I am my beloved’s and his desire is for me.” (Song of Solomon 7:10) 

Concerning faith, this verse reminds us that upon receiving Jesus, we belong to him forevermore. We are His and no one or nothing can separate us. There is security and comfort in knowing we are Christ’s beloved. It is a communion with Him—not only a covenant of His love—but an ample and deep relationship. All He has promised in the gospel, all he has prepared in Heaven, is ours! It is an indissoluble relationship—unable to be destroyed! We are his by creation—“Know that the Lord, he is God! It is he who made us, and we are His.” (Psalm 100:3) We are his by redemption—“I am praying for them. I am not praying for the world but for those whom you have given me, for they are yours.” (John 17:9) As Spurgeon spoke, “Which is the greater miracle — that he should be mine, or that I should be his?” 

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Two Kinds Of Love

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I recently went to a wedding and the pastor said, “There are two kinds of love.” He named one romantic love but never said what the other love was. But it got me thinking. There ARE two kinds of love. Yes, the romantic love and then there’s the committed love.

Romantic love is that feeling you get when you’re first in love. Flowers, candy, sweet conversations on life, smiles abundant…you know that romantic kind of love. I remember getting butterflies in my stomach when I knew my Love was coming over to spend some time with me and my family. After marriage, I was tickled when we could just talk about our future or laugh together over silly things. I blushed when he smiled just for me at me…you know that look. I still feel that romantic love with my Love. This love comes easily with little effort. Now, committed love is a different story. Yet marriages need both.

Committed love requires effort. Committed love demands work. Committed love has everything to do with selflessness. Committed love is tested when life throws us struggles. It’s during these times that we must learn to love a little differently. We must love through selfishness (when one wants what he/she wants), pride, self righteousness (one thinking he/she is never wrong), disagreements, trials and those episodes in life that are just plain not pleasant and don’t stir love for our spouse in our heart. Committed love demands us to reach deep and love deep without conditions. 1 Peter 4:8 reminds us to “above all, keep loving one another earnestly, since love covers a multitude of sins.

Romantic love is easy in marriage but committed love takes more digging into our hearts to do. Yet both are a part of being in love with someone. Our marriages need both. Holding the hand of our husband is romantic but it is also a reminder of our commitment to him and our marriage. The next time you reach for and grab hold of your husband’s hand, remember these vows “to have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish; from this day forward until death do us part.” (Traditional vows) They are vows for life. 

Encouragement:  Be intentional to practice both kinds of love today and always. 


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Loving Your Husband When He Travels

(Us goofing off.)

Last fall my Love received a promotion. It was truly a blessing because we
didn’t see it coming. Yet everything fell into place and he was given a fabulous
promotion beyond what we could’ve desired. What we didn’t know would
be included was the traveling he would have to do with this new position. His
previous job kept him close to home and I am so thankful for that but this job
has taken him on business trips far from home and for a few days in duration.
Something we’re not used to.

Yet while he is away and not in my presence, I still want to love on him the
best I can. Here are some things I have done to let him know that even though
he is miles away for a short period, I love him and want take care of him as
if he were home.

1.) I always send him off with a love note, a sweet card or a something that
     reminds him I love him so very much. I put it in his bag without him knowing
     so that he gets it when he arrives at his destination. (He loves this by the way.)
2.) I continue to tend to our home the way I would if he were home. His time
     away is not my vacation. I always clean our bathroom and wash our bed
     linen before he comes home. I love having those ready.
3.) I (still) iron all his work clothes and have them waiting in our closet for his
     next work day. Now you may not have to iron your husband’s work clothes
     but make sure his extra work clothes are ready to go.
4.) I plan a delicious meal if he is going to be arriving in time for dinner. If not,
     I plan that meal for the next evening. I want him to know I am glad he is
     home, safe and sound.
5.) We text throughout the day and send pictures via our phones. It’s like we
     are not far apart because we document what is going on where we are. Plus,
     we send lots of “love yous” and “XOXOs” as well. We don’t usually call one
      another since we know we will probably Skype later.
6.) We skype each other at least once a day, usually in the evening, on the days
      he is gone. If this available to you, I highly recommend it. Skype allows you
      to do video calls so you actually get to see one another. I love it! (So do our
      kids.)
7.) The number one thing I do for him is PRAY for him while he is away. I
     pray for travel mercies, for his words and actions to glorify God, for his health
     and for his trip to accomplish what it needs to to better his job.

This is my list of how I love my husband when he travels for his work. His
traveling is not favorite part of his job but when I choose to do things to honor
and serve him, my heart deals better with it. Plus, I LOVE! when he comes home.

What do you do for your husband to love on him while he away for his job?

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Teaching Our Daughter At Home To Be A Biblical Wife

And so train the young women to love their husbands and children, 
to be self-controlled, pure, working at home, kind, and submissive 
to their own husbands, that the word of God may not be reviled.
~Titus 2:4,5~

The Lord has blessed me with a beautiful daughter. This year

she will be 15 years of age and I am so anxious to continue 
teaching her so many things about being a daughter of the King
and a wife and a mother. Recently, I have seen what can happen
when girls are not given proper training at home to be a wife.
Without proper training and encouragement, we leave our daughters
to their own way of thinking which could be more damaging to their
marriage. This really got me thinking about my daughter and am I
doing all I can to help her be ready for her role as a wife? Just as I
have had the blessing of teaching her how to read and write with
much diligence, I believe I need to take the same approach to training
her to be a biblical wife someday. It is so important that she understand
her role. Through prayer and God’s Word, here is my list to date.
I desire for her…

1. To treat her relationship with the Lord with all
    reverence and of the utmost importance. This relationship
    will encourage her daily. It will be the foundation for her 
    as she grows in her role as a wife. (Prov. 31:30)
2. To know how to communicate with a calm approach.
    This means learning to speak with her husband without 
    yelling or raising her voice or finger pointing. She needs to
    take the time to think over her words. (Prov. 15:1)
3. To be a good listener. This is something that will allow her
    to ponder what is being said. In being a good listener, she
    will “hear” what her husband is saying and not half-hear.
    (James 1:19)
4. To be an encourager. Taking time to build up her husband
    using descriptive words to convey how proud she is of him.
    (Eph. 4:29)
5. To tend to her home with diligence and commitment making
    her home a welcoming space for her husband. (Prov. 31:27)
6. To know how to cook. It is important that she be able to
    prepare meals for her husband. In our home, I feel it is a
    much needed skill for all my children to learn. (Prov. 31:15)
7. To understand what biblical submission is to her husband
    and how that looks in a godly marriage. (Eph. 5:22-24)
8. To respect and honor him according to the Word of God.
    (Eph. 5:33)
9. To know the little things matter in a marriage.Those things
    that don’t always warrant a “thank you” but help and build
    him up. (Prov. 31:12)
10. To learn to take care of herself physically. When she is in
      her best health, she can put forth her best effort as a wife.
      (Prov. 31:17)
11. To give first and put him before herself. Learning to be
      selfless is not easy but important in a marriage. (Phil. 2:4)
12. To learn to practice forgiveness. (Eph. 4:32)
13. To find joy in her marriage. (Prov. 17:22)

As her mother, teaching her the tools she will need and, hopefully use,
in her marriage will be of encouragement to her. God willing she will one day be 
married and I desire for her to be prepared and able to be the best wife she 
can be to the best of her ability. (Prov. 31:12) So, teaching her now
while she is at home, giving her opportunities to practice with her family,
is important to me. 
Mothers, tell me, what do desire for your daughter to know in her calling 
as a wife? Or if your daughter is married, what did you teach her that you
 see has been instrumental in her marriage? 

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