Mama, Your Role IS Most Important!

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Do you know King Lemuel? Well, don’t feel bad if you don’t. I don’t know much about him either other than he had a wise mother who instructed him on things of great importance. King Lemuel is only mentioned twice in the Old Testament. He is found in Proverbs 31, verses 1 and 4. Some biblical scholars have suggested that Lemuel was another name for Solomon: “Lemuel is another name for Solomon that when translated means “towards (lemo) God (el).” (Source) For this post, we will stick with King Lemuel since that is how it is written in Bible.

King Lemuel had a wise mother. She instructed him on good and evil—what was good for him and what he needed to avoid. This instruction was to make him a good king, I believe. Maybe even more than a good king but a godly person. First, these were her warnings to Lemuel:

  • Do not give your strength to women.”  Warning to avoid the women who will cause him to stumble in his             kingship and life.
  • Do not give your ways to those who destroy kings.” Warning to not go down paths that are destructive to  him.
  • It is not for kings to drink wine or for rulers to take strong drink.” Warning to avoid drinks that would  prevent him from thinking clearly and with a steady mind at any time. “Wine is a mocker, strong drink is raging: and whosoever is deceived thereby is not wise.(Proverbs 20:1)

These were vices that kings were most likely to be tempted by. She warned him, in love, to be aware and be watchful. Lemuel’s mother understood the evil things that could destroy her son personally and in his being a ruler.

Now, for the good things she encouraged him to do:

  • Give strong drink to the one who is perishing, and wine to those in bitter distress.” She reminded him the proper and responsible use of such drinks can restore one’s body and mind in a good way. (Read Psalm 104: 15)

  • Open your mouth for the mute, for the rights of all who are destitute.” She told him to defend those who cannot defend themselves and stand for their rights as people. (Read Psalm 72:12)

  • Open your mouth, judge righteously, defend the rights of the poor and needy.” She encouraged him to be a wise judge and plead for those less fortunate. (Read Isaiah 1:17)

Lemuel’s mother desired for her son to be selfless in his dealing with others while instilling a righteous kingship over his people. This would’ve made him a good king and she knew this.

I bring this story to you because it made me think of how important a mother’s role is to her child. Aside from the daily tasks of making sure our children have meals, clean clothes, an education and so on, we have the great privilege of leading our children in the ways that would honor our Lord and be good for them all the days of their lives. As mothers, we ought to seize the opportunities to give our children the tools to live how the Lord calls them to. Lemuel’s mother does just that.

Lemuel’s mother, also, reminds us of the importance of reproving our children so that they avoid the wiles of the world and the evil one. We must be on top of this so we can properly guide our children in the way they should go. (Read Proverbs 22:6) Lemuel’s mother saw the trouble being a young prince could bring if he was not taught to be watchful and smart in his choices. We have the same responsibility to our own children as well. We must teach them how to avoid sinful choices. As they are growing in our home, we should make sure we are diligent about reproof, as needed and in love, so they know how to guard their hearts.

Lastly, Lemuel’s mother isn’t remiss about teaching her son the value of good decisions like helping the poor and defending the destitute. Just as important as warning against sinful choices, she encourages him to do what is right and selfless. Again, we as mothers, have an exceptional responsibility to teach our children how to live godly lives and make godly choices. It is good mothering to teach our children what is good along with what is not. We need to make sure our children grasp the wisdom of making good decisions unto the glory of God and for their good.

Matthew Henry writes, “when they [our children] are young and tender they are most under the mother’s eye, and she has then an opportunity of moulding and fashioning their minds well, which she ought not to let slip.” How right he is! Mama, it may seem, amid all the of the daily duties of motherhood, your role is lessened. However, remember your role in your children’s life is most important. Make each day count.

Siggy2015

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Lads & Ladies of Wisdom Review & Giveaway

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Kathie has done it again. Kathie, at The Character Corner, and author of Little Lads and Ladies of Virtue, has put together another fabulous faith building curriculum. I had the awesome joy of reviewing Little Lads and Ladies of Virtue that I couldn’t wait to dig into her newest curriculum for children: Lads & Ladies of Wisdom.

Lads & Ladies of Wisdom is the next curriculum study to follow Little Lads and Ladies of Virtue. It’s a 20 week – 20 topic study for young children covering the importance of being a biblically wise person. Some of the topics covered are consequences of a foolish person, choosing friends wisely, receiving counsel and instruction, avoiding evil and trusting God to name a few. Each lessons is designed to be taught in 5-10 minutes a day making this an easy way to begin your homeschool day.

All the topics are based on scripture found in the book of Proverbs, which I believe every parent should read and work through with their children more than once while they still live at home. The lessons there are crucial to teaching our children the importance of having wisdom in life. As Kathie says, “to grow in the character traits of a wise person.

This curriculum is designed for grades 1st through 6th and does include activity cards and sheets to bring each topic home for the child. There are also coloring pages. Lads & Ladies of Wisdom Curriculum has 5 days of lessons to reiterate that week’s lessons which includes a memory verse, fun activities to apply what they have learned, 3-4 KEYS that relate to the character quality in their daily life, games, object lessons and a daily prayer to encourage application in their life.

The ultimate goal of Lads & Ladies of Wisdom is “to train our children to love God and become more like Him.” Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewal of your mind.” (Romans 12:2)

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In addition, there is also a Copywork and Activity book to use alongside the study. It includes manuscript and cursive copywork of the memory verse and keys for each lesson. This will give them handwriting practice, while also helping to reinforce what they are learning in the daily lessons. Also included are additional fun activities for the kids to do, like word search puzzles, crossword puzzles, match-ups, and word scrambles.

Now that you have a good idea of what Lads & Ladies of Wisdom is all about, it’s giveaway time. Kathie is so sweet to allow WJIM give away one copy of Lads and Ladies of Wisdom (workbook not included) to two separate winners! That’s right! You have the opportunity to win a copy to use in your home with your children. Our giveaway will run until Saturday, April 18th, and the winners will be announced on Monday, April 20th, at our Monday’s Musings link up. I am so excited to host this giveaway and want to thank Kathie for being so generous. Enter below and be sure to check out Lads & Ladies of Wisdom.

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Teaching Diligence Regarding Work

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As a parent, I believe one of the tougher things we taught our children was the value of diligence regarding work. Diligence defined is careful and persistent work or effort; earnest effort to accomplish what is undertaken. Although we are created for work, it is not something we willingly say okay to most of the time. I believe it is a taught and learned attitude. Proverbs 14:23 reminds us “In all toil there is profit.”

We started young with our children and reiterated it quite a few thousand times as they grew up. Today, our children are not afraid of hard work and willingly help others when they can. I didn’t write this post to boast about our kids although we are proud of them. It took many lessons for them to understand the value and benefit of being a hard worker at all tasks given them. We as parents, knew that “A slack hand causes poverty, but the hand of the diligent makes rich.”  (Proverbs 10:4) We too, had to practice diligence in teaching them diligence with regard to work.

One of the first things we did was give them tasks at an early age. It was something as simple as putting away their toys when they were done playing or helping one of us with something we were doing. It was a lesson in whatever your hand finds to do, do it with your might.” (Ecclesiastes 9:10) For example, at the age of two, they were able to help pick things up. At the age of three, we taught them how to not only pick things up but to put them exactly where they go. They also began helping with laundry by sitting next to mama and folding washed clothes or matching socks. Now at these young ages, most of the time we had to go behind them and “fix” it but it wasn’t about doing it right as much as it was about accomplishing the task at hand.

The second lesson we covered was to help them understand the importance of work in the home as they grew older. We discussed not creating unnecessary work for others as well as filling a need if we see a need. For instance, if they saw something that needed to be picked up, they were instructed to not step over it but pick it up and put it where it goes. This is seeing a need and filling it. Another example is cleaning up after themselves so they didn’t create unnecessary work for another. These lessons showed how their diligence blessed our home and the loved ones abiding in it. It was teaching them that the plans of the diligent lead surely to abundance.” (Proverbs 21:5)

Third, we aimed to give more responsibility to master their careful and persistent diligence as they got older. We entrusted to them opportunities to prove themselves…not only to us but to God first…that they could appreciate work and be diligent in it as was His design.The Lord God took the man and put him in the garden of Eden to work it and keep it.” (Genesis 2:15) This was not always easy and yes, we did have heart issues to lovingly correct along the way. Yet it paid off now that they are older and becoming adults.

Lastly, we always took our lessons back to the Word of God. It was so important to make God the center of it. He requires our diligence in all things.Therefore, my beloved brothers, be steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that in the Lord your labor is not in vain.” (1 Corinthians 15:58) Diligence can be applied not only in the physical work aspect but in the spiritual aspect as well. Diligence in our bible studies, prayer time and faithfully practicing what we have learned. Diligence can also be used in academic studies. It is an all around useful trait in life, period. Proverbs 13, verse 4 reminds us that The soul of the sluggard craves and gets nothing, while the soul of the diligent is richly supplied.

Is being a hard worker one of the lessons you teach your children? How do you teach diligence?

 

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What Children Need From Their Parents (Guest Post from Four Seasons of Blessings)

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How quickly our world is changing!  We receive a constant influx of data…daily.  So much so that it is impossible to keep abreast of all that is taking place around the globe.  One would believe that with so much information at our fingertips parenting would be a breeze.  Not so!  Who among us could possibly wade through all the data one receives with only a click of a mouse?  And even if one could what’s vogue today will be obsolete tomorrow.

The family is in crisis, children’s lives are being shattered, and the end result is suffering on all fronts. What are parents to do?  How are parents to discern fact from fiction–truth? There is only one place where truth can be found and that is God’s Word. The Bible holds the answers to navigating the waters of this world and the keys to parenting. God’s Word is the only guide that won’t steer us off course, therefore if we want to stay on the straight and narrow path the Bible must be our compass.

What do children need from their parents? It’s a simple question that at times can seem overwhelming; however when we focus on what a child needs verses what a child wants the answer becomes much clearer. It is my belief that what children need is relatively simple and can be narrowed down to the following:  a Godly foundation, unconditional love, unconditional acceptance, time, and discipline.

It is God’s plan that parents teach their children about God–give them a Godly foundation by modeling the Christian life for them.  Remember the day you stood before the LORD your God at Horeb, when he said to me, “Assemble the people before me to hear my words so that they may learn to revere me as long as they live in the land and may teach them to their children. (Deuteronomy 4:10).  God has a unique plan for each of our children especially designed by the Father to fulfill His great purposes.  He has equipped each child with talents, gifts, and abilities to accomplish God’s good works.  As a parent it is our job to teach and instruct our children in the ways of God so that they may live out the plans of God.  “Hear, O Israel: The LORD our God, the LORD is one.  Love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your strength. These commandments that I give you today are to be on your hearts. Impress them on your children. Talk about them when you sit at home and when you walk along the road, when you lie down and when you get up.”  (Deuteronomy 6: 4-7).

Children just like any other human being desire to be loved.–unconditionally, without strings.  Actions speak louder than words–children need to be shown love as well as being told.  Sing praises rather than criticism.  Encourage not dictate–empathy shows a measure of love and compassion.  “Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude.  It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth.  Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.  Love never ends…”  (1 Corinthians 13:4-8).

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In a world that is ready to find fault, our children need to know that they have our acceptance.  When this world throws them a curve ball they will be able to endure because they have the security and acceptance of Mom and Dad.  Trials are a given but a safe place to land makes them bearable.  “And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.”  (Colossians 3:14).

Our children spell love T-I-M-E! It’s just that simple. Children want to be in the presence of their parents–they want our full undivided attention. We must learn to listen, be sensitive to their feelings, and choose to give them our time. Children are influenced by who they spend time with, therefore if we want to be the ones to shape, mold, and influence our children we need to give them our time.  “…making the best use of your time, because the days are evil.”  (Ephesians 5:16).

Children need consistent discipline. They must learn to respect limits (set lovingly, firmly, and with understanding) and take accountability for their actions. People will not accept obnoxious, disrespectful behavior from our children and the sooner they learn obedience the easier life will be for all. God demands our obedience and if our children do not learn to obey us, how will they learn to obey God? “Children, obey your parents in everything, for this pleases the LORD.” (Colossians 3:20).

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Parenting is not an easy task for any of us; however with God beside us we are able to navigate the stormiest of seas. When you are at a loss for how to proceed ask the Lord. “If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you.” (James 1:5). I hope this verse brings you as much comfort as it does me.

Blessings, Kasey

 

Kasey-5I am a wife and homeschool mother of four blessings–one born in each season–two boys (18 and 15) and two girls (13 and 11).  I’m learning everyday how to follow and live a life pleasing to my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. I enjoy stringing words into sentences, reading books, and studying historyday how to follow and live a life pleasing to my Lord and Savior, Jesus Christ. The Lord has given me a heart for the least of these. I blog for World Help at www.worldhelp.net and Gospel for Asia at www.gfa.org in hopes of educating others of the great needs those around the world face. I write once a month for Essential Thing Devotions atwww.essentialthingdevotions.com. And I blog at www.fourseasonsofblessings.com  where I hope to be an encourage to those I meet on the web.

 

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Capes & Feats (Guest Post from Days & Thoughts)

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The summer has passed. School has begun. With the start of a new school year, it is a time when we are filled with new goals, routines and aspirations. Women before us have achieved acclaim, facing odds, overcoming and doing the hard things. We have been amazed at the successes of women – those who have combined careers and families, seemingly with ease.

Growing up I was intrigued with Superman. He was a news reporter who by day covered secondary stories hidden away from the front pages of the paper.

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Every once in a while though, he felt called to fight crime and save lives. He would run into a phone booth, unnoticed, and transform into Superman, wearing his cape and able to fly to any place he needed to be. He had x-ray vision and unmatched strength.

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The thing about Superman was this – much of what he did in the normal dailiness of his days was done without much fanfare. He was the mild mannered Clark Kent with a personality awkward at work. He fumbled and bumbled his way through his workday getting yelled at by his Capes & Feats editor Mr. White, teased by fellow employees and loved by a frustrated Lois Lane, who was in
love with him.

He showed up each day, sat at his desk, wrote his articles, a man doing his job. No cape. No flying. No heroics. No superhuman strength. No x-ray vision.

And that is women – and moms- every single day.

Much of what is done each and every day is without any fanfare. Our days are routine, often very similar day in and day out. We make lunches, do laundry, give baths, make beds, do food shopping and help with homework.

No one seems to notice what gets done and we can often wonder if it matters or will ever make a difference.

I want to assure you – it truly does make a difference. The most important work we will ever do is often done in secret. It may even be our best work, the only work which will matter.

Our most important accomplishments witnessed by an audience of One.

The world would seek to have us believe we must be noticed, recognized, for our actions to have merit. But most of which we will do during these days may go unnoticed and still have great worth.

My children may not remember each and every time I have wiped their nose. But they know, in their hearts and minds, I have been there for them when they were sick. They remember the times of treating serious poison ivy, of crying with them in the pain of tooth extractions, getting up in the middle of the night with cold compresses to reduce high temps.

They may not remember each and every time they received my help with homework. But they will remember the nights I stayed up with them till the wee hours of the morning, encouraging them to keep working on a project or a paper.

They may not remember each morning I drove them to school. Yet they will remember the time they forgot something important and I drove home to bring it to them.

And they may not ever know the times I prayed for them – the middle of the night, pacing the floor or down on my face prayers. They were yet sleeping as I slipped out of bed in the dark of morning to pray for the challenging day ahead of them. Nor will they ever know, the many times, I slipped into their rooms and prayed over their little heads as they slept.

As women, wives and moms much of what we do truly does go unnoticed. Yet our most critical achievements are done in obscurity. They truly are witnessed and known by One. And He knows all about it as much which He did has not yet been told to us …“Jesus also did many other things. If they were all written down, I suppose the whole world could not contain the books that would be written.” (John 21:25, NLT)

Jesus did many things for many people which we have not been told. Perhaps only known by the recipient and His Father. Perhaps this is the lesson to be learned. This may be the very manner in which we become most like Jesus.

A few questions to ask ourselves today … Would I still do all I do if no one noticed? Would I be OK with it? Or would I get upset and bitter and resentful? What if some of the amazing things we do while here went unnoticed by everyone except Him?

Remember Superman, AKA, Clark Kent?

Could I be like Superman – hanging up my cape -content to be the unassuming Clark Kent?

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Joanne

 

J-ViolaJoanne recently celebrated her 35th wedding anniversary. She has two adult married children and her two granddaughters {whom she watches full time while their parents work} call her “Mimi”. She loves to read and write and began blogging several years ago so that her family would always know her thoughts as she processed life. God’s written Word comes alive to her as she views it through the simple daily occurrences. It is her joy to share with others in the hopes they, too, would find encouragement in His Word. Joanne writes on her blog, Days & Thoughts and you can find her on Facebook and Twitter.

 

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